Post by dubber on Aug 25, 2015 11:23:05 GMT -6
I don't know if I have a question here, but would love feedback.......
And yes, I know we get similar threads like this all the time.....
Our staff has been intact really since 2007. I had some college stuff (then a job move) that kept me from the day to day a couple seasons, but I have been on the box for every game.
The other 4 guys (HC, DC, OC, OL/DL) have not changed. Some have been on staff since 2000 (back when I played at the same school). The oldest has been there since 1993.
So, a ton of stability.
When we first started, myself and the OL guy were not married, the DC is not married, and the OC and HC had kids who were mostly in the kindergarten range.
We spent hours pre and post practice working.
Fast forward to 2015.......
I have a child of 3 months.
OL guy has 2 under 2 years old.
OC is now the superintendent.
HC is now athletic director.
In short, time has become more precious.
To complicate matters, the DC and myself work jobs that sometimes demand our absence from practice.
Summers can be very hard on me, and I sometimes only make Monday workouts.
I always feel guilty about this.........we do a GREAT job of picking up the slack for one another, but I still feel awful.
I know the other guys when they miss/are late for practice hate it too, but what are you going to do?
Especially feel bad for our DC. This is the senior guy on staff, and a lot of the work falls his way. Really, that man taught me the most about being a good coach. It's not about X's and O's, it is about showing up and filling water coolers, doing laundry, folding towels, etc. He really sets the tone for our entire staff.
It does help we added a 22 year old guy to help out......he's into Hudl and laundry, etc.
All 5 of us have the same vision: State Championship. We 4 assistants have zero desire to move on or up. I could be the JV OC for the rest of my life.
I read the horror stories that other's have with their coaching staff environment, and I thank God for mine.
But it is killing us to have to break away. I know it is necessary, but still.
So I have two thoughts:
1.) This is temporary. When the kids get older, and their schedules become more like your's, and you can involve them more in what you are doing, things get better. My job demands could get better in a few years too.
2.) I do not think we are losing anything. All the work gets done. We get better at coaching every year, so our kids are MORE prepared than in years past. It's just that I am missing out.
It just sucks that my life is getting in the way of my passion.
[BTW, I love what I do, and even more, I love my son. Matter of fact, I took him to practice in his stroller last week. He played DE in our give/keep drill on Zone Read. So please, no "be a father first" posts......my priorities are straight.]
Anyone else going through something like this? Any advice?