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Post by CS on Sept 22, 2020 11:34:43 GMT -6
It took all summer and the first 2 weeks of the season but I had a mom come and see me because I didn't give her kid player of the game in a game we lost 35-14. Gotta love priorities amaright
Anyway, I thought it would be fun to read some good pissed off parent meeting stories
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Post by coachscdub on Sept 22, 2020 12:46:40 GMT -6
Our best player's dad was an assistant coach with us.
We benched his kid for a half because he made some disparaging comments toward the OL in front of the team.
I was young and i mistakenly didn't think to inform him that he (the kid) was benched, instead i just put the other RB in.
Well the kids dad is just blowing up on the sideline about why his kid isn't in, and saying if he was we would've already scored and blah blah blah.
Eventually he starts disrespecting me (the OC) and our HC. Keep in mind im in the booth so im hearing it through the headset and as the HC is telling me, but i can see him blowing up.
Eventually it gets to the point where the HC told him to leave the field, he said no, and stayed for the end of the first half.
At half time he starts yelling at me in front of the team and eventually he gets "fired" on the spot. He then went into the stands and kept chirping until the game was over.
Than we had a nice fun meeting on Monday where he threatened to move his kids (ours the Frosh RB, and his other son who was a starting varsity DB/WR). Var HC talked him down and he just made weird remarks in passing for the rest of the season when he came to pick up his kids.
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Post by CS on Sept 22, 2020 12:48:41 GMT -6
Our best player's dad was an assistant coach with us. We benched his kid for a half because he made some disparaging comments toward the OL in front of the team. I was young and i mistakenly didn't think to inform him that he (the kid) was benched, instead i just put the other RB in. Well the kids dad is just blowing up on the sideline about why his kid isn't in, and saying if he was we would've already scored and blah blah blah. Eventually he starts disrespecting me (the OC) and our HC. Keep in mind im in the booth so im hearing it through the headset and as the HC is telling me, but i can see him blowing up. Eventually it gets to the point where the HC told him to leave the field, he said no, and stayed for the end of the first half. At half time he starts yelling at me in front of the team and eventually he gets "fired" on the spot. He then went into the stands and kept chirping until the game was over. Than we had a nice fun meeting on Monday where he threatened to move his kids (ours the Frosh RB, and his other son who was a starting varsity DB/WR). Var HC talked him down and he just made weird remarks in passing for the rest of the season when he came to pick up his kids. Jeez |
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Post by eaglemountie on Sept 22, 2020 14:33:31 GMT -6
Kid quit because he didn't want to play a different position than linebacker.
Mom was pissed saying we should have begged him to stay and called the school constantly complaining about said issue.
Dad came up to meet with the HC and apologized for his wife and said "I know my son doesn't want to play, he was just looking for an excuse to quit. And I'm sorry for the phone calls."
Found out later the real issue was Mom was pissed she wasn't going to be a part of the Football Moms club on Friday night and get to wear her new "My Son Number 54" sweatshirt she bought for $50.
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Post by coachcb on Sept 22, 2020 14:55:55 GMT -6
Kid was ditching out on practice with doctor's notes (psychiatrist..).
1. Kid misses too many practices during camp to be eligible for the scrimmage (i.e. no contact). Dad throws a fit... Parent meeting explaining the policy... Dad cites the ADA, we tell him he doesn't trump state rules.
2. Kid misses too many practices to compete the in the first game (i.e. didn't have ten practices in, couldn't compete). Parent meeting to explain why he couldn't compete. Dad again cites ADA, we tell him it doesn't trump state rules...
3. Kid continues to miss practice but has enough to play in the second game. We give him three plays as a) it's a freshman game and b) our AD asks us to tread lightly until he figures it out. Dad brings a lawyer to the third meeting, demanding we give his kid equal playing time, as per the ADA. Lawyer is under the impression that we're not playing him at all and taps out when he finds out played him.
4. Kid misses more practice (again, excused) but he ends up kicked out of practice for telling a coaching to "f-off". Yup, Meeting #4 with dad and a friggin' lawyer. School is forced to bring in a lawyer as dad is threatening to sue...
Glad I wasn't the HC..
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Post by s73 on Sept 22, 2020 15:55:24 GMT -6
About 20 years ago I was a head soph coach. We took over a team that went 9-0 as frosh. However starting FS (stud) moved, 3 kids got pulled up to varsity, starting QB quit (6'8 quit for BB got a full ride to Cal) and a stud lineman's dad got arrested & they moved shortly after for whatever reason, and we had a season ending injury to one other kid. All 7 played both ways.
So....we essentially lost 14 starters. Is what it is. we went 4-5 I think.
Anyhow, last game of the season this dad who was riding me all season about how good they were last year (we nicknamed him smokes, dude must've owned Marlboro red stock) comes down onto the sideline during the 4th Q (away game, no fence from bleachers to bench, weird set up).
he's just going off. I tell him he's gotta leave.
He says "oh yeah, whatcha gonna do tough guy, give me a detention?"
I say as calmly and as dead panned as I have ever said anything in my life, "no sir, I will just sit your son's ass on the bench until you leave".
He goes "Oh yeah?" throwing his arms up in the air with such exasperation he knocks his ball cap off his own head, stumbles trying to catch it, & then leaves.
Three amazing things about this:
1 - If the other kids who moved, quit, etc hadn't his kid never would've played.
2 - Never asked for a meeting or heard about it again.
3 - At the banquet I was having trouble getting the AV equipment set up for our highlight tape (yes, tape) and he came over and set it up for me w/o being asked.
Craziness.
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Post by Defcord on Sept 22, 2020 16:33:12 GMT -6
Kid was ditching out on practice with doctor's notes (psychiatrist..). 1. Kid misses too many practices during camp to be eligible for the scrimmage (i.e. no contact). Dad throws a fit... Parent meeting explaining the policy... Dad cites the ADA, we tell him he doesn't trump state rules. 2. Kid misses too many practices to compete the in the first game (i.e. didn't have ten practices in, couldn't compete). Parent meeting to explain why he couldn't compete. Dad again cites ADA, we tell him it doesn't trump state rules... 3. Kid continues to miss practice but has enough to play in the second game. We give him three plays as a) it's a freshman game and b) our AD asks us to tread lightly until he figures it out. Dad brings a lawyer to the third meeting, demanding we give his kid equal playing time, as per the ADA. Lawyer is under the impression that we're not playing him at all and taps out when he finds out played him. 4. Kid misses more practice (again, excused) but he ends up kicked out of practice for telling a coaching to "f-off". Yup, Meeting #4 with dad and a friggin' lawyer. School is forced to bring in a lawyer as dad is threatening to sue... Glad I wasn't the HC.. The last guy I worked for told parents, “practice time is playing time” and would show them practice drills and scout team where they got in as proof they played. We never had major issues with it though. |
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Post by Defcord on Sept 22, 2020 16:46:22 GMT -6
My favorite one was we had a kid I loved. I would beg him to marry my daughter if they were near in age. Does everything we ask, 4.0, brushes his teeth after lunch, donates blood on Saturday not on Tuesday so he can get out of practice, I mean perfect kid. Bad football player.
We have routine meetings to discuss role on team. Kid knows and accepts his role. We sneak him on every special team, he’s the first guy in when we sub because of outcome is determined. The kid has no issue with it that we are aware of.
One week we he’s a captain. He didn’t play very much in the game. Saturday his dad calls AD and schedules a meeting for Monday. Monday I walk into the meeting the dad, the AD and the principal are all there. As I’m sitting down the dad starts to ask about the son.
I ask politely to give the AD a minute so we can call the kid down so we are all on the same page. The dad says he doesn’t want the kid there. I tell him per our athletic contract we will only meet with the parent with the kid present. He demands the meeting continue without the son. I tell the AD and principal we will have the meeting with the kid or I have other issues to take care of. Dad refuses to meet with kid present.
I leave. Kid comes to me at practice and said he is embarrassed by the dad. I tell him no worries and that if kid wants to know situation or wants us to meet again with dad when he is present we can. He assures me dad’s an idiot and it’s not a big deal.
The kid ended up going into teaching and coaching and keeping in contact.
Moral of the story is although the kid sometimes is the catalyst of contention there are other times the kids can’t control who they were born to.
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Post by coachcb on Sept 22, 2020 17:30:13 GMT -6
Kid was ditching out on practice with doctor's notes (psychiatrist..). 1. Kid misses too many practices during camp to be eligible for the scrimmage (i.e. no contact). Dad throws a fit... Parent meeting explaining the policy... Dad cites the ADA, we tell him he doesn't trump state rules. 2. Kid misses too many practices to compete the in the first game (i.e. didn't have ten practices in, couldn't compete). Parent meeting to explain why he couldn't compete. Dad again cites ADA, we tell him it doesn't trump state rules... 3. Kid continues to miss practice but has enough to play in the second game. We give him three plays as a) it's a freshman game and b) our AD asks us to tread lightly until he figures it out. Dad brings a lawyer to the third meeting, demanding we give his kid equal playing time, as per the ADA. Lawyer is under the impression that we're not playing him at all and taps out when he finds out played him. 4. Kid misses more practice (again, excused) but he ends up kicked out of practice for telling a coaching to "f-off". Yup, Meeting #4 with dad and a friggin' lawyer. School is forced to bring in a lawyer as dad is threatening to sue... Glad I wasn't the HC.. The last guy I worked for told parents, “practice time is playing time” and would show them practice drills and scout team where they got in as proof they played. We never had major issues with it though. This particular father was bringing in notes from a shrink to get his kid excused from practice and also brought in a disability lawyer...I don't think he was going to listen to reason. Lol.. I've never seen a situation like that before. The father and the psychiatrist were basically trying to give the kid a free pass not to practice. The kid had a long list of mental health issues as well as learning disabilities but it was getting ridiculous. It took him three and a half weeks to get enough practices in to play in a game. |
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Post by carookie on Sept 22, 2020 18:29:17 GMT -6
Had a parent come to me once complaining that his kid wasnt playing "enough innings" (for our football team). It was lower levels, and I would be glad to get him in, but he missed about half our practices with various injuries and tutoring needs and had no clue what he was doing out there.
Have had the multiple 'dad threatens to fight the coaching staff' type stuff for various reasons; playing time, we are too hard on the kid, etc. One was a dad after a game, but dad was like some former navy seal- so that one was a little more real.
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Post by 19delta on Sept 22, 2020 18:39:26 GMT -6
The last guy I worked for told parents, “practice time is playing time” and would show them practice drills and scout team where they got in as proof they played. We never had major issues with it though. This particular father was bringing in notes from a shrink to get his kid excused from practice and also brought in a disability lawyer...I don't think he was going to listen to reason. Lol.. I've never seen a situation like that before. The father and the psychiatrist were basically trying to give the kid a free pass not to practice. The kid had a long list of mental health issues as well as learning disabilities but it was getting ridiculous. It took him three and a half weeks to get enough practices in to play in a game. Did the dad have any legal ground at all to stand on? |
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Post by Down 'n Out on Sept 22, 2020 20:13:15 GMT -6
Wouldn't call it a meeting, more of a conversation with the HC.
Im 20 and am volunteering at my alma mater. JV OL/DL, just there to help. Were about 2 weeks into practice and a kid decides to come out to play, not the football type but whatever. We were a small rural school and all are welcome. Were doing warmups and he has absolutely no clue how to do any of this stuff. We were doing power skipping, karaokes,etc, just standard stuff. Moms watching from the edge of the practice field. One of my duties was to run warmups. The other 2 guys on staff didn't want to and I loved it (still do). Anyway kid gets maybe halfway through, takes his helmet off, comes over to me and says "coach, I appreciate the opportunity but im just not cut out for this", gives me his helmet and shoulder pads and walks to mom, then goes to the car.
Water break after warmups mom and HC get into a discussion about how I was too hard on junior. Mom is furious, HC can barely keep from busting out laughing. Kid made it maybe 10 minutes.
Mom was the secretary at a local elementary school and I was subbing while in college. The high school and other elementary school used me regularly but that elementary never did lol
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Post by bigmoot on Sept 22, 2020 20:43:51 GMT -6
Kid was ditching out on practice with doctor's notes (psychiatrist..). 1. Kid misses too many practices during camp to be eligible for the scrimmage (i.e. no contact). Dad throws a fit... Parent meeting explaining the policy... Dad cites the ADA, we tell him he doesn't trump state rules. 2. Kid misses too many practices to compete the in the first game (i.e. didn't have ten practices in, couldn't compete). Parent meeting to explain why he couldn't compete. Dad again cites ADA, we tell him it doesn't trump state rules... 3. Kid continues to miss practice but has enough to play in the second game. We give him three plays as a) it's a freshman game and b) our AD asks us to tread lightly until he figures it out. Dad brings a lawyer to the third meeting, demanding we give his kid equal playing time, as per the ADA. Lawyer is under the impression that we're not playing him at all and taps out when he finds out played him. 4. Kid misses more practice (again, excused) but he ends up kicked out of practice for telling a coaching to "f-off". Yup, Meeting #4 with dad and a friggin' lawyer. School is forced to bring in a lawyer as dad is threatening to sue... Glad I wasn't the HC.. Did we work together 20 years ago. Similar experience. |
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Post by fantom on Sept 22, 2020 21:18:18 GMT -6
We had a kid who was a real PITA, always loafing, wisea$$ing, mumbling stuff, etc. One day the HC had had enough and sent him home. Coach sent a manager in with him to collect all of his gear: helmet, pads, jersey, practice, everything.
Next day Dad came in. His older son had played for us and we had a good relationship. He was calm and told us that he wasn't angry but he wanted to know why his son had to walk home in just his BOXER SHORTS.
It seems that the kid was a soccer player and those guys would go home and dress there for practice. When we took his practice uni all that he had left was his boxers. He hadn't mentioned that.
The explanation satisfied Dad. He knew that his kid was a little off so that was the end of it.
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Post by coachscdub on Sept 22, 2020 21:33:30 GMT -6
Had another, it happened this past year. It was about playing time and a 'QB competition'
In the summer both look equally good, one is a better passer, and the other gave off a real Jalen Hurts vibe.
As we go through unpadded practices it stays pretty neck and neck but one is starting to separate.
First day we put pads on the one kid is just different, bad different, all his abilities seem lesser, he's slower, fundamentals are gone, everything is bad.
The other kid was just the opposite, pads came on and he became Heisman Johnny Manziel, crazy runs and passes and breaking contain, was trucking multiple defenders, he was just balling out.
Anyways the better kid wins the job obviously, but the other kid is still one of our better athletes so i mention to him playing WR and at first he said yes, then come game day he says 'no coach i only wanna play QB' so he doesn't play.
As the season goes on he doesn't get a ton of time at QB and his dad who comes to every practice (yes every single one) sends me a massive email (after week 3) basically saying i don't give his kid a fair shot, and he's not upset im playing the other kid, but he thinks i need to play his kid too.
I send a polite email and CC our Var HC, and eventually he leaves me alone.
After the season i hear from the Varisty staff that the dad was upset and thought i/we didnt know what we were doing and that his kid was being held back because i didnt like him.
Anyways he transferred the kid to ST John Bosco, i wish him nothing but good look, but i doubt he would even make the team up there.
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Post by coachcb on Sept 23, 2020 7:44:33 GMT -6
This particular father was bringing in notes from a shrink to get his kid excused from practice and also brought in a disability lawyer...I don't think he was going to listen to reason. Lol.. I've never seen a situation like that before. The father and the psychiatrist were basically trying to give the kid a free pass not to practice. The kid had a long list of mental health issues as well as learning disabilities but it was getting ridiculous. It took him three and a half weeks to get enough practices in to play in a game. Did the dad have any legal ground at all to stand on? He would've if we'd kicked the kid off of the team; his 504 plan would've been invoked. But, he couldn't sue us because we weren't playing him. |
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Post by Defcord on Sept 23, 2020 8:42:23 GMT -6
Had a parent come to me once complaining that his kid wasnt playing "enough innings" (for our football team). It was lower levels, and I would be glad to get him in, but he missed about half our practices with various injuries and tutoring needs and had no clue what he was doing out there. Have had the multiple 'dad threatens to fight the coaching staff' type stuff for various reasons; playing time, we are too hard on the kid, etc. One was a dad after a game, but dad was like some former navy seal- so that one was a little more real. I have never had a Navy Seal threaten to kill me, but I had a drunk guy at rodeo utter the same words when his wife was rubbing up against me after she had too many. He probably wouldn't have been as mad had I not been smiling so big. I worked in North Carolina close to Fort Bragg and had a kid who played baseball for me. Not a great player, but a great kid. His dad was a sniper in the army and would be gone for random spurts for 2-3 weeks at a time. I guess he would have to go on "missions." When he did the kid would be pretty guarded, but still a great kid. Anyway, he was a lefty and played first base. His dad stops me after a practice one day and just asked what the kid could work on to get better and if there was any help he could provide for the kid to get better. Great dad and great kid. I decided to start the kid next game, it was JV baseball so what a better life lesson for the bunch than if a kid is trying to improve himself he might get an opportunity. We get to the game and we go to take In/Out and the kid looks at me like he saw a ghost. "Coach I forgot my glove." He was the only lefty so he was screwed. After the game his dad looked me dead in the eye and said "Coach I appreciate you giving him a chance, but never play his butt again." |
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Post by larrymoe on Sept 23, 2020 9:25:16 GMT -6
Had a parent come to me once complaining that his kid wasnt playing "enough innings" (for our football team). It was lower levels, and I would be glad to get him in, but he missed about half our practices with various injuries and tutoring needs and had no clue what he was doing out there. Have had the multiple 'dad threatens to fight the coaching staff' type stuff for various reasons; playing time, we are too hard on the kid, etc. One was a dad after a game, but dad was like some former navy seal- so that one was a little more real. I have never had a Navy Seal threaten to kill me, but I had a drunk guy at rodeo utter the same words when his wife was rubbing up against me after she had too many. He probably wouldn't have been as mad had I not been smiling so big. I worked in North Carolina close to Fort Bragg and had a kid who played baseball for me. Not a great player, but a great kid. His dad was a sniper in the army and would be gone for random spurts for 2-3 weeks at a time. I guess he would have to go on "missions." When he did the kid would be pretty guarded, but still a great kid. Anyway, he was a lefty and played first base. His dad stops me after a practice one day and just asked what the kid could work on to get better and if there was any help he could provide for the kid to get better. Great dad and great kid. I decided to start the kid next game, it was JV baseball so what a better life lesson for the bunch than if a kid is trying to improve himself he might get an opportunity. We get to the game and we go to take In/Out and the kid looks at me like he saw a ghost. "Coach I forgot my glove." He was the only lefty so he was screwed. After the game his dad looked me dead in the eye and said "Coach I appreciate you giving him a chance, but never play his butt again." Had a kid once who was a great kid, hard worker, showed up to everything but would trip over the lines on the field. Terrible athlete. Came up to me one day and says- Coach, you always say if we work hard and show up we'll play for you over people that don't. Why don't I play? Kid called me out and he was right. Next week we start him at corner against a power house program in the area who would end up going to the quarterfinal that year. Thing is they ran 90% of time inside the tackles, so he wasn't going to hurt us. About 1 minute left in the half they get the ball back and go hurry up and throwing the ball (we ended up losing 17-14). With 45ish seconds left they throw a fade to the WR this kid's covering. CB kid isn't within 30 yards of the WR. He followed some slant to the middle of the field (cover 3). Thankfully it's overthrown and incomplete. Kid immediately runs off the field and says "Don't play me anymore. I suck." So, we didn't. He became our special team all star |
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Post by bleefb on Sept 23, 2020 9:37:16 GMT -6
Our best player's dad was an assistant coach with us. We benched his kid for a half because he made some disparaging comments toward the OL in front of the team. I was young and i mistakenly didn't think to inform him that he (the kid) was benched, instead i just put the other RB in. Well the kids dad is just blowing up on the sideline about why his kid isn't in, and saying if he was we would've already scored and blah blah blah. Eventually he starts disrespecting me (the OC) and our HC. Keep in mind im in the booth so im hearing it through the headset and as the HC is telling me, but i can see him blowing up. Eventually it gets to the point where the HC told him to leave the field, he said no, and stayed for the end of the first half. At half time he starts yelling at me in front of the team and eventually he gets "fired" on the spot. He then went into the stands and kept chirping until the game was over. Than we had a nice fun meeting on Monday where he threatened to move his kids (ours the Frosh RB, and his other son who was a starting varsity DB/WR). Var HC talked him down and he just made weird remarks in passing for the rest of the season when he came to pick up his kids. That sounds an awful lot like my last season coaching. Maybe they moved to my school the next year.  |
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Post by carookie on Sept 23, 2020 10:14:20 GMT -6
Had a parent come to me once complaining that his kid wasnt playing "enough innings" (for our football team). It was lower levels, and I would be glad to get him in, but he missed about half our practices with various injuries and tutoring needs and had no clue what he was doing out there. Have had the multiple 'dad threatens to fight the coaching staff' type stuff for various reasons; playing time, we are too hard on the kid, etc. One was a dad after a game, but dad was like some former navy seal- so that one was a little more real. I have never had a Navy Seal threaten to kill me, but I had a drunk guy at rodeo utter the same words when his wife was rubbing up against me after she had too many. He probably wouldn't have been as mad had I not been smiling so big. I worked in North Carolina close to Fort Bragg and had a kid who played baseball for me. Not a great player, but a great kid. His dad was a sniper in the army and would be gone for random spurts for 2-3 weeks at a time. I guess he would have to go on "missions." When he did the kid would be pretty guarded, but still a great kid. Anyway, he was a lefty and played first base. His dad stops me after a practice one day and just asked what the kid could work on to get better and if there was any help he could provide for the kid to get better. Great dad and great kid. I decided to start the kid next game, it was JV baseball so what a better life lesson for the bunch than if a kid is trying to improve himself he might get an opportunity. We get to the game and we go to take In/Out and the kid looks at me like he saw a ghost. "Coach I forgot my glove." He was the only lefty so he was screwed. After the game his dad looked me dead in the eye and said "Coach I appreciate you giving him a chance, but never play his butt again." One time in my playing days did I forget equipment. Sophomore year playing JV ball somehow I forgot my knee pads. The JV coach was not well prepared- we didn't even have a back up equipment bag for things like that or for equipment malfunctions. So I realize what happened, go to the coach to apologize for my mistake explain why I cant play. Coach says to me I'm still playing (I was starting OLB). He turned to a back up kid and told him, 'you ain't playing anyways' and made him give me his knee pads. I felt AWFUL! I also couldnt believe the coach did that, complete wrong move. I made sure after that to always double check my gear |
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Post by Down 'n Out on Sept 23, 2020 10:42:46 GMT -6
One time in my playing days did I forget equipment. Sophomore year playing JV ball somehow I forgot my knee pads. The JV coach was not well prepared- we didn't even have a back up equipment bag for things like that or for equipment malfunctions. So I realize what happened, go to the coach to apologize for my mistake explain why I cant play. Coach says to me I'm still playing (I was starting OLB). He turned to a back up kid and told him, 'you ain't playing anyways' and made him give me his knee pads. I felt AWFUL! I also couldnt believe the coach did that, complete wrong move. I made sure after that to always double check my gear Been on staff twice when this has happened; once with cleats and once with pants. Both times the HC took equipment from a younger non starter to give to the starter. Its not ok. Our equipment bag is fully prepared and I stress to players to lay everything out in front of themselves then immediately put it in their bag. So far no issues(fingers crossed) |
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Post by larrymoe on Sept 23, 2020 11:15:26 GMT -6
One time in my playing days did I forget equipment. Sophomore year playing JV ball somehow I forgot my knee pads. The JV coach was not well prepared- we didn't even have a back up equipment bag for things like that or for equipment malfunctions. So I realize what happened, go to the coach to apologize for my mistake explain why I cant play. Coach says to me I'm still playing (I was starting OLB). He turned to a back up kid and told him, 'you ain't playing anyways' and made him give me his knee pads. I felt AWFUL! I also couldnt believe the coach did that, complete wrong move. I made sure after that to always double check my gear Been on staff twice when this has happened; once with cleats and once with pants. Both times the HC took equipment from a younger non starter to give to the starter. Its not ok. Our equipment bag is fully prepared and I stress to players to lay everything out in front of themselves then immediately put it in their bag. So far no issues(fingers crossed) It's only a matter of time. Had a starting DL leave his helmet at home for a state semifinal game. No problem right? Go to the extra bag. He had a special ordered 2XL dome. Tried telling us someone "stole" it off the bus. I drove the equipment van and got home before the bus. Low and behold his helmet sat in the bed of his truck when we got back. |
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Post by coachscdub on Sept 23, 2020 13:09:19 GMT -6
I have never had a Navy Seal threaten to kill me, but I had a drunk guy at rodeo utter the same words when his wife was rubbing up against me after she had too many. He probably wouldn't have been as mad had I not been smiling so big. I worked in North Carolina close to Fort Bragg and had a kid who played baseball for me. Not a great player, but a great kid. His dad was a sniper in the army and would be gone for random spurts for 2-3 weeks at a time. I guess he would have to go on "missions." When he did the kid would be pretty guarded, but still a great kid. Anyway, he was a lefty and played first base. His dad stops me after a practice one day and just asked what the kid could work on to get better and if there was any help he could provide for the kid to get better. Great dad and great kid. I decided to start the kid next game, it was JV baseball so what a better life lesson for the bunch than if a kid is trying to improve himself he might get an opportunity. We get to the game and we go to take In/Out and the kid looks at me like he saw a ghost. "Coach I forgot my glove." He was the only lefty so he was screwed. After the game his dad looked me dead in the eye and said "Coach I appreciate you giving him a chance, but never play his butt again." One time in my playing days did I forget equipment. Sophomore year playing JV ball somehow I forgot my knee pads. The JV coach was not well prepared- we didn't even have a back up equipment bag for things like that or for equipment malfunctions. So I realize what happened, go to the coach to apologize for my mistake explain why I cant play. Coach says to me I'm still playing (I was starting OLB). He turned to a back up kid and told him, 'you ain't playing anyways' and made him give me his knee pads. I felt AWFUL! I also couldnt believe the coach did that, complete wrong move. I made sure after that to always double check my gear Kinda similar we had a kid forget his helmet (long story as to why, but basically his mom drove him to the game, and his dad had picked him up from practice the night before and he left it in his dads car). Kid asks if he can borrow someone elses, i say no. Says his dad is bringing it and will be there at the half, HC told him he wont play at all because of the helmet issue. All the other starters on the team come up and ask if he can play, i say no. They start listing off kids who arent gonna play much (if at all) and say he can just take one of their helmets, again it's a no. We struggled in the game, and all the starters were pissed at us for not letting him play/use another kids helmet. |
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Post by Defcord on Sept 23, 2020 16:16:04 GMT -6
One time in my playing days did I forget equipment. Sophomore year playing JV ball somehow I forgot my knee pads. The JV coach was not well prepared- we didn't even have a back up equipment bag for things like that or for equipment malfunctions. So I realize what happened, go to the coach to apologize for my mistake explain why I cant play. Coach says to me I'm still playing (I was starting OLB). He turned to a back up kid and told him, 'you ain't playing anyways' and made him give me his knee pads. I felt AWFUL! I also couldnt believe the coach did that, complete wrong move. I made sure after that to always double check my gear Been on staff twice when this has happened; once with cleats and once with pants. Both times the HC took equipment from a younger non starter to give to the starter. Its not ok. Our equipment bag is fully prepared and I stress to players to lay everything out in front of themselves then immediately put it in their bag. So far no issues(fingers crossed) I worked with a guy that did “dummy checks” last thing before we hopped on the bus they brought all of their stuff in the home bleachers: Touch your helmet Touch your shoulder pads Touch your girdle Touch your pants, thigh pads, knee pads Touch your socks Touch your cleats Okay load it up and load the bus. There was a couple times a kid would have to run and grab something. One week before Coach said load it up one of the seniors yelled “Touch your balls and if you don’t have em don’t get on the goddam bus!” It was a big game and it got em all, and us too, fired up. |
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Post by coachcb on Sept 24, 2020 7:36:34 GMT -6
3 - At the banquet I was having trouble getting the AV equipment set up for our highlight tape (yes, tape) and he came over and set it up for me w/o being asked. Craziness.
I coached a youth team back in 2012 who's folks drove me insane. Long story short, it got to the point where I tossed my clipboard down in front of a group them in the parking lot following a practice and walked away. Two of them followed me, handed me the clipboard and apologized. We had an undefeated season, won the "league championship", and all of the kids played equally but these people were a nightmare.
At the end of the year banquet, the same parents gave me a whistle with my name engraved on it as well as an expensive polo that with "Coach CB" embroidered on the front... They got the rest of the staff t-shirts that said "Undefeated 2012".
Nice gesture but I refused to coach that team the next year.
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Post by fkaboneyard on Sept 24, 2020 14:13:46 GMT -6
We had a kid, started in the program as a freshman and by the time he was a senior was an all-league fullback. Third game of the season the fullback had the stomach flu and didn't practice all week. He showed up to the game dehydrated and the coach played him. Kid got hit and immediately diagnosed himself with a concussion - "I feel sick to my stomach". His parents took him out of the game and directly to a hospital where they told him, "You don't have a concussion, you have a stomach bug. Go home and rest" - have you ever heard of a doctor saying you DON'T have a concussion? The kid didn't come back to practice for a couple weeks and then it was to hand in his gear, "I can't risk another concussion, I'm going to be a stuntman." We were good that year and made it to the quarterfinals. The kid showed up to the game and walked out onto the sidelines. The HC told him to beat it - "you quit, you gave up your right to be here". The kid's dad came out of the stands and challenged the HC to a fight. When an AC - the getback coach - intervened to calm things the dad swung on him and knocked him silly. Security hooked the dad and the getback coach went to the hospital - they told him he had a concussion.
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Post by dubber on Sept 24, 2020 14:25:11 GMT -6
I have never had a Navy Seal threaten to kill me, but I had a drunk guy at rodeo utter the same words when his wife was rubbing up against me after she had too many. He probably wouldn't have been as mad had I not been smiling so big. I worked in North Carolina close to Fort Bragg and had a kid who played baseball for me. Not a great player, but a great kid. His dad was a sniper in the army and would be gone for random spurts for 2-3 weeks at a time. I guess he would have to go on "missions." When he did the kid would be pretty guarded, but still a great kid. Anyway, he was a lefty and played first base. His dad stops me after a practice one day and just asked what the kid could work on to get better and if there was any help he could provide for the kid to get better. Great dad and great kid. I decided to start the kid next game, it was JV baseball so what a better life lesson for the bunch than if a kid is trying to improve himself he might get an opportunity. We get to the game and we go to take In/Out and the kid looks at me like he saw a ghost. "Coach I forgot my glove." He was the only lefty so he was screwed. After the game his dad looked me dead in the eye and said "Coach I appreciate you giving him a chance, but never play his butt again." Had a kid once who was a great kid, hard worker, showed up to everything but would trip over the lines on the field. Terrible athlete. Came up to me one day and says- Coach, you always say if we work hard and show up we'll play for you over people that don't. Why don't I play? Kid called me out and he was right. Next week we start him at corner against a power house program in the area who would end up going to the quarterfinal that year. Thing is they ran 90% of time inside the tackles, so he wasn't going to hurt us. About 1 minute left in the half they get the ball back and go hurry up and throwing the ball (we ended up losing 17-14). With 45ish seconds left they throw a fade to the WR this kid's covering. CB kid isn't within 30 yards of the WR. He followed some slant to the middle of the field (cover 3). Thankfully it's overthrown and incomplete. Kid immediately runs off the field and says "Don't play me anymore. I suck." So, we didn't. He became our special team all star This is why we never say attendance and hard work equal starting......I realized it wasn’t fair to the other 10 kids on the field |
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Post by 44dlcoach on Sept 24, 2020 15:19:12 GMT -6
We had a kid, started in the program as a freshman and by the time he was a senior was an all-league fullback. Third game of the season the fullback had the stomach flu and didn't practice all week. He showed up to the game dehydrated and the coach played him. Kid got hit and immediately diagnosed himself with a concussion - "I feel sick to my stomach". His parents took him out of the game and directly to a hospital where they told him, "You don't have a concussion, you have a stomach bug. Go home and rest" - have you ever heard of a doctor saying you DON'T have a concussion? The kid didn't come back to practice for a couple weeks and then it was to hand in his gear, "I can't risk another concussion, I'm going to be a stuntman." We were good that year and made it to the quarterfinals. The kid showed up to the game and walked out onto the sidelines. The HC told him to beat it - "you quit, you gave up your right to be here". The kid's dad came out of the stands and challenged the HC to a fight. When an AC - the getback coach - intervened to calm things the dad swung on him and knocked him silly. Security hooked the dad and the getback coach went to the hospital - they told him he had a concussion. We had the reverse happen a year ago with our best LB. Kid got the flu, went to the doctor and described his symptoms, and doctor told him he was out for the week with a concussion. |
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Post by CS on Sept 25, 2020 3:51:03 GMT -6
More drama unfolds. The kid who didn’t receive the award for player of the game is hurt and our starting QB. The mom that came and bitched at me called our backups mom to say her son would never be as good at QB.
Parents are nuts man
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Post by coachcb on Sept 25, 2020 10:40:24 GMT -6
More drama unfolds. The kid who didn’t receive the award for player of the game is hurt and our starting QB. The mom that came and bitched at me called our backups mom to say her son would never be as good at QB. Parents are nuts man
Sounds like the administration needs to step in on that one... Nothing good will come from the football program trying to handle that situation...
Sorting out parent disputes shouldn't be an AD's job but it happens... Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.
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